By Kenneth Stepp
I’m a price shopper when I visit the grocery store, the cost of things matter very much to me. So, what does this mean in the singles community? Everything… You see, when options exist, they distract from what matters. What matters? What is your goal? Are you looking for forever love? You will not find it in the bargain bin. You know, you either have to cook it or freeze it that day. You wind up looking for today’s meal, not food you can take time enjoying.
Let me throw this out there though. There are those looking for a meal for today only. I know many of them and years ago I went through a phase where I was one of them. And there is nothing wrong with this at all as long as you are upfront and honest about it. Some are not ready for forever but still want companionship. I get that. Not everyone is in the same place at the same time.
Have you ever sat down and thought of what life with someone would look like? For the last 3 ½ years I have had the same roommate. We have dinner together every night, converse with one another, and care for one another. This gives me a glimpse into life with a partner. I feel we are both lucky to have one another. It isn’t what I’m looking for but is a substantial asset to my life. I get to hear her “men” stories as well and that helps me write dating stories.
Well, I’m writing about options today. Options can be both good and bad. They are not the bad guys in this story. If you are one of the people not ready or not wanting to find forever love, options are awesome. If your search is for your person, what you do with options will determine your ability to find that person. It’s your actions, not your options that make the difference.
I want to be clear about this. We all have options. Some have more than others. But everyone has them. There are those that believe they don’t but trust me, they do. This world of singleness is a crazy place where for most of us, very little of it makes sense at all. There are players who only want a quick meal but only with someone that wants forever. So they perfect their words to seem like they are looking for a forever meal, and once eaten, vanishes. It’s a game…
Another conundrum with having options is when we aren’t sure what we want. Or if we are ready. If this is you, you have a dangerous heart that will damage others until you figure things out. It doesn’t make you the bad guy either. We throw ourselves out there over and over again, each time we get hurt, we are a little more unsure of who we are and why we failed. It takes a lot of courage and energy to try again. I know, I’ve lived it.
I suppose the shallow ones will read about my shopping style and the deep ones will read about life lessons from a broken heart. Either way, I hope we all get something out of this piece. Options have a price. The cost is your future. If you are searching for your person but stuck shopping in the bargain bin for what to cook that day, the price you pay will be being alone. You may enjoy a cheap steak every now and then, but you’ll be back at the grocery store the next day.
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