By Kenneth Stepp
Strange title. It could be taken as one person becoming like another person. This isn’t what I meant at all. I am becoming someone uniquely me. The process is harder as I age, yet easier as I grow. You see, life causes us to change. Some changes are good, some, not so much. It is my belief that we must be intentional to change in good ways.
It is only when we become lazy or just tired, that the world begins to drag us along life’s road and we change to whatever that road has on it. We become like our surroundings. We allow what is outside of us to change what is inside of us. When that happens, the changes are never pretty.
So, how does this play out in the singles community? Chaos ensues. Have you ever met someone and while you are speaking with them, your brain is trying to dodge the drama that acts like a cloud around them? That’s one thing that happens. Change that isn’t good at all.
To be more serious. I am who I am. I am logical, I have a pretty good moral compass, I am compassionate, and I make friends easily. Those are a few of the things I know are internally and uniquely me, deep inside, that’s who I am. But when I allow the world in, I look strangely like the world. I do things like the world, and my moral compass sees things through the world’s filter, not my internal filter.
All of us at some point were becoming someone. Some, stopped becoming and simply became what you see today. That’s where drama, self centeredness, and narcissism began. People just stopped growing. They got hurt enough, or became morally lethargic, or simply decided they were just here to please themselves, at any human cost. And the cost is always high.
Years ago, I used to help people launch their businesses. I was successful and wanted them to be as well. Our first conversation was always the same. Decide who you are before you hang your sign up. If you are never going to lie, cheat, or steal, stand on that and never veer from it. Decide that up front. Because when trouble comes, and it always will, know who you are and deal with the issues through that filter. Being single is that way too. Know who you are up front.
Having said, know who you are and stay who you are, my intentions are to hold onto my moral compass while allowing myself to become who I will be. Change this way will always be good change. I want a life with the most amazing woman on the planet. I believe she and I are both becoming a perfect match at the same time. Maybe that’s the romantic in me. Maybe…
I think of her often. Knowing her worth, knowing how special and amazing she will be makes me want to become the man she will desire too. I want or need to allow myself to become that man. My biggest goal in life is for us to find one another. Timing and what we became so far will be the key to us even noticing one another. We will have become what we both searched for. For me, it has been a journey of over 7 years. I can’t know yet how long hers will be. I’m sure we’ll chat about our journeys and laugh at our stories for quite some time. Our future will be epic…
EPIC means “Extremely awesome” So now you know – EPIC means “Extremely awesome”
I wish I could put a smiley face here.
#comefindme
