By Kenneth Stepp
Most of us at one time, had or was part of a two income family. Through divorce or the loss of a spouse by death, we’re down to one income, many, the lower of the two incomes. My wife and I had a theft in our business and struggled afterwards, we had to downsize and both of us had to work. When we divorced, we both had to figure life out as a single. We took very different paths.
My wife made good money at her job, but when my income left, she decided to find more income, today she works 3 jobs, but has the same lifestyle. I on the other hand, made different choices. I decided I would become a minimalist. This decision came for 2 reasons. First, most of the girls I met had their own life, so I altered mine to make it financially easy to insert my life into hers. The second reason was, having almost no bills would give me a lot of freedom.
Shrinking my life, bills, stuff, has given me an interesting perspective on life. First, there was a time when making less than $700k meant I had a bad year, I dedicated 16 hours a day of my life to winning and accumulating stuff I never I would never actually own. If I owned it, I’d still have it. And that is a secret life has taught me. When a billionaire dies, he no longer owns anything. He never really did, if he did, he’d have taken it with him. And I assure you, he did not.
If you have nice things, a beautiful home, money, and wealth. I am happy for you. I found when I had all that, it really had me, I didn’t have it. Managing things like that takes time and other resources. My life today is me in front of my laptop, typing, studying, and connecting with friends, earning a living doing these things was a process, a very long one. But my life today is unique in my opinion. The song, I Did It My Way, comes to mind. I’m not rich, but very content.
My life is different because of the freedom I have. Freedom because, on a good day, I make enough to pay my monthly bills. Not because I make a lot, because I need so little. Shrinking my life became my goal when I realised, I want to find my forever love and spend my life with her. When we become one, I only bring $200.00 per month in bills, we would, together, have the freedom to travel monthly if we liked.
These days I have a routine. I awake at 5am, I work till around 10am, then clean up, head out, and I go on an adventure of my choosing for 3 to 5 hours, then I come back and work a few more hours. On these adventures, I build friendships, I help others, and I see things I’ve never seen before. This is why I built or shrank this life of mine. Freedom, friendships, and having something to offer someone should I ever meet her.
If you are suffering from working all the time, never catching up on bills, or losing the game of financial freedom, consider something drastic. Change everything, stop living the life you were always told was normal. Every day I learn something new about how to not make more, but need less. I’m not missing out on anything. I live is a nice house, in a great area, I drive a truck I love, I travel a lot. My life by all measures is only missing one thing… Her, my her.