Single Again… Love Trust Secrets and Safety

By Kenneth Stepp

 

“Ok. This writing is about the last time I gave my heart to someone fully. The relationship is alive and well today as a strong friendship only. We were best friends when we decided to date. Although we didn’t make it as a couple, I consider her my best friend still today. I discovered some things I wrote during this time and have decided to publish them anyway. I hope they bless you”

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What a title. Three things I have spent years studying. Did you know they can all be related? I’ll try to tie the knot around them so that I can explain what I mean by related. Being single and having dated a lot, like most on this journey, I developed ways of keeping myself safe. Building walls and defenses to keep others out. So what happens when real love arrives? For me, it was a feeling of safety. I no longer felt the need for these walls, defenses, or anything else. It sneaked up on me really, it was, well, surprising.

 

“None of us knows what might happen even the next minute, yet still we go forward. Because we trust. Because we have Faith.” Paulo Coelho

 

My forever love is the most amazing human I have ever known. I visited her last week at her farm, we are 82 miles apart, so I do not see her as often as I’d like. We were enjoying a great evening with her dogs, cats, and other animals, I call them her, “menagerie”, She tried to look something up on her phone, something happened and her phone would not work in the way she needed it to, I was on the other side of the room. I said, use my phone instead, I told her the security code, she laughed and said she’d watched me enough times and knew it. What struck me was how comfortable I was with that. Having access to my phone gave her access my other social media as well. Everything from Facebook to my old online dating account. And I felt safe…

 

“True love and true trust are parts of the whole. With one comes the other. With both comes safety” – Kenneth Stepp

 

As we explore the depths of this love we are finding new layers. Layers that are life changing for us. The first night I spent at her house, as I held her, she said, “I feel safe”. Was she safe because she knew I would lay my life down to protect her from harm? Or had she already found the safety I am writing about today? Both are amazing to me. Not that she’s needy, she is an independent woman with a brain that I love exploring every time we speak. She doesn’t need a man, she certainly doesn’t need me. But like everyone, she desires love. And now as she and I explore our love further, we find another wonderful layer. Safety, trust, and contentment. Love truly is an amazing thing. Magical even.

 

“The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.”  W.B. Yeats

 

I lost my father in 2012. He was a great man. He taught my brothers and myself to be loyal, honest, kind, giving, and gentlemen. I remember talking to him about love. I was 15 and in love for the first time. He said, “son, love is made up of three things. Respect, trust, and loyalty”. Today I can add safety to that list. It turns out dad knew more about life than I gave him credit for as a teen. I’m betting he knew he was just setting me up to recognize love when it came. He knew I wasn’t really in love at all, I was simply infatuated with a beautiful girl. That happened more times in my life. And my father was right, I recognize love now. Today, I am safe, I respect, I trust, and I am loyal. Today, I see only perfection in her, and I am simply in love…

 

“But the you who you are tonight is the same you I was in love with yesterday, the same you I’ll be in love with tomorrow.” Gayle Forman

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2 Comments

  1. Always perfect! When you trust you believe and when you believe then you feel safe and when you are safe you can love freely😁

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